

I think the most profound thing I learned was from Paula at Footsteps who made me realize that the people leaving these communities are not leaving Judaism necessarily, but leaving that form of Judaism - one we both agreed was very antithetical to Jewish values. He was told to stay and have affairs as his friends did, but he decided to take the more noble route and leave altogether. He said the emotions he felt, the longing, love and lust, was something he never felt before even though he is married.
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My friend who left said he decided to go when he saw his first movie ever at the age of 21, Titanic, which shook all of us so imagine someone who has never seen a film before. Many of the people in these communities are married at 17,18 or 19 without understanding the concept of love, or understanding their sexual bodies since they were not given proper sex education. It became clear quickly that all the values surrounding Judaism - love, being in the world, finding oneself and relationship with G-d - was chiseled into such a strict structure that leaves no room for being oneself. But after speaking with Jerry, the founder, as well as a friend who left the community and Paula Winnig who works as Executive Director of Footsteps, an organization that helps religious people assimilate back into modern life after leaving their community, I got a different kind of perspective - more of a ‘I wonder what I would do if I were in their place’ perspective. And what if you knew the person’s husband, or rabbi, or what if he were a rabbi? I couldn’t wrap my head around it. I couldn’t believe a community that was built around Torah, commandments, family and education were also building websites to sleep around with the entire community. The truth is, at first, I was entirely creeped out. But the question was what do I think about it, which is a much harder question to answer. So OK, I just retold the story once more. “Our community has the same needs as any other community let it be dating, drugs, cheating or whatever and it’s silly to think we are ‘different.’ Yes, in deed, there are lots of miserable people here.” I find many, many, many people sharing the same beliefs as myself.” He also says people always like to think that “we are holier than thou” and it does not happen here. “I was ‘brought’ up religious but I believe in sh** basically. Sadly, the guy wasn’t just looking to sell something, he was looking to fill a need - one that was very apparent when you search the term “frum” in Craigslist’s casual encounters. Some of you right now are asking how a religious man can justify creating such a platform? I asked those questions too which you can read on my blog at The Jew Spot.
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This website is tailored to the religious Jewish community, who not only seek affairs, but are involved in forums which speak of the benefit of having extramarital relations plus a section to upload pornography which can only be viewed as a member. But more than love or hate mail, I got a lot of “Well, what do you think?” mail.įor those who are unfamiliar, Shaindy is a website created by an ultra-religious Jewish man which ultimately fosters extramarital affairs. The article and the interview with the founder got a lot of attention, and a lot of response. You may remember reading the article “ Unkosher Sex” here on Busted Halo. In May, I wrote a piece about a new website called.
